Boyfriend Criteria

I came across this link that was shared on Facebook just earlier today. When I was reading through it, I thought to myself I must share it. But where? Thought of sharing it on Facebook but then the blog seemed like a better place (plus I hadn't blog since Chinese New Year). Yes I'm back to the land below the wind, fighting my every battle here. But this is too good to not be shared, so homeworks to aside, blog first!

It is written in Chinese so I thought maybe I can translate it. (My Mandarin ain't that good so pardon me if there's any wrongs what-so-ever) It seems to have summarized how I would like to be treated when in a relationship. So here it goes:

做我的男朋友，辛苦吗?

Is it hard (exhausting/tiring) being my boyfriend?

做我男朋友不需要很有钱,够用就好了;

To be my boyfriend, you don't need to have loads of money, just enough to be spent, that'll be good enough;
出手用不着很大方,肯为我花钱就好了;
When spending, you don't have to be over generous, if you're willing to spend on me, that'll good enough;

不需要你多会说甜言蜜语,在我最无助的时候,可以给肩膀靠就好了;
I don't need you to do all the sweet talking, at times when I feel the most helpless, if you're willing to lend a shoulder for me to lean on, that'll be good enough;

不需要有多浪漫,晚上陪我到处走走逛逛聊聊天就足够了;

I don't need a lot of romance, taking me out at night, walking around and talking to me is enough; 

如果我们会走在一起,证明我们是相爱的.
If we are walking together, this proves that we do love each other; (I find this a little weird, wtf?)  

我的要求不是很高,去逛街的时候,你会拉着我的手,看到熟人,能够和对方介绍"这是我女朋友"
I don't ask for much, when walking around, you will hold my hand, and when we meet people we know, you can introduce me as your girlfriend;  

当我们不在一起的时候,会常打电话,发信息给我.证明你有在想我,讲电话的时候,要多说话,我喜欢听到你讲,那样感觉你就在我身边,不许先挂我电话,我讨厌听到"嘟'嘟" 声.

When we're not together, you will call, text me showing me that you are thinking of me. When talking on the phone, you have to talk a lot as I love listening to you speak as that gives me the feeling of you being next to me. you're not allowed to hang up first (I think this should be okay gua), as I hate hearing the sound of 'doo doo'.

不要说你很忙,那样只是证明我很自私,讨厌那种感觉,
Don't say that you're very busy, this will show that I am very selfish and I hate that feeling, 

看到靓女的时候瞄几眼就好了,不要流口水~
When you see any pretty girls you can check her out, but do not drool~

久别重逢的时候,记得给我一个拥抱,在我耳边说"我好想你......

When we meet after not seeing each other for a long time, remember to give me a hug and whisper in my ears 'i miss you so much...'
我知道,我很任性,但既然你选择了和我在一起,你就应该学会包容我,能接受并指出我的不好,
I know, I am being very childish, but since you've chosen to be with me, you should learn to accommodate me, and willing to accept me while pointing out where I did wrong,
我并不是一个自我为中心的人!

I am not a person who thinks of only me, me and me!
如果你觉得我哪方面不好可以说出来,但不可以忽略我;

If you feel there's anywhere I'm doing no good, you can say to me, but you cannot ignore me;
我可以忍受你直接说不爱我,但是我讨厌你对我忽冷忽热;

I can endure you telling me directly you don't love me, but I hate it when you treat me hot and cold 

我是人,有感觉,也有脾气,不要说我不喜欢听的话,要是我沉默了,那代表我不想再谈论那个话题,那么请你停止说.

I am a mere human being, I have feelings and I also have a temper. Do not say things that I don't like to hear and if I feel depress, that means I don't feel like discussing that matter anymore and please do stop talking (I think this works both ways not just me la and this does sound a tad childish) 

我知道我脾气真的不好,但是要是你受不了,你可以同我说;

I know I have a bad temper, but if you really can't endure it anymore, you can say it out to me;

如果我选择了你,证明我是真的爱你,所以如果我有不好的地方,你也要说出来.

If I have chosen to be with you, this proves how much I truly love you, so if I have any wrongs, you can also say it out.

两个人在一起,就要相互信任,你可以有自己的私人空间,但是不可以欺骗我~

Being together means believing in one another, you can have your own privacy but you cannot bluff me ohr~

Reading through this really made me think, relationship really is hard work. There's the give and take. I remember watching a TV show last time saying how in a relationship, there's always a giver and a taker. or a relationship to work, both parties have to split that responsibility equally so that in the end, both feel treasured and loved. If a person continuously gives and the other continuously take, there'll come a time when the giver feels exhausted and finally gives up on that relationship. Now how sad will that be? I'm no expert in love, I have my flaws and at times I do feel I am a tad selfish. At times like that I would constantly remind myself, I can't make the world revolve around me, try standing in other people's shoes for an instance. I am getting so lovey-dovey come this Valentine's Day!

So I shall leave you guys with this thought, till the next post!

-KaRLeeN-