Sunday, January 29, 2012

Boyfriend Criteria

I came across this link that was shared on Facebook just earlier today. When I was reading through it, I thought to myself I must share it. But where? Thought of sharing it on Facebook but then the blog seemed like a better place (plus I hadn't blog since Chinese New Year). Yes I'm back to the land below the wind, fighting my every battle here. But this is too good to not be shared, so homeworks to aside, blog first!

It is written in Chinese so I thought maybe I can translate it. (My Mandarin ain't that good so pardon me if there's any wrongs what-so-ever) It seems to have summarized how I would like to be treated when in a relationship. So here it goes:

做我的男朋友,辛苦吗?
Is it hard (exhausting/tiring) being my boyfriend?

做我男朋友不需要很有钱,够用就好了;
To be my boyfriend, you don't need to have loads of money, just enough to be spent, that'll be good enough;
出手用不着很大方,肯为我花钱就好了;
When spending, you don't have to be over generous, if you're willing to spend on me, that'll good enough;

不需要你多会说甜言蜜语,在我最无助的时候,可以给肩膀靠就好了;
I don't need you to do all the sweet talking, at times when I feel the most helpless, if you're willing to lend a shoulder for me to lean on, that'll be good enough;
不需要有多浪漫,晚上陪我到处走走逛逛聊聊天就足够了;
I don't need a lot of romance, taking me out at night, walking around and talking to me is enough; 

如果我们会走在一起,证明我们是相爱的.
If we are walking together, this proves that we do love each other; (I find this a little weird, wtf?)  
我的要求不是很高,去逛街的时候,你会拉着我的手,看到熟人,能够和对方介绍"这是我女朋友"
I don't ask for much, when walking around, you will hold my hand, and when we meet people we know, you can introduce me as your girlfriend;  
当我们不在一起的时候,会常打电话,发信息给我.证明你有在想我,讲电话的时候,要多说话,我喜欢听到你讲,那样感觉你就在我身边,不许先挂我电话,我讨厌听到"嘟'嘟" 声.
When we're not together, you will call, text me showing me that you are thinking of me. When talking on the phone, you have to talk a lot as I love listening to you speak as that gives me the feeling of you being next to me. you're not allowed to hang up first (I think this should be okay gua), as I hate hearing the sound of 'doo doo'.

不要说你很忙,那样只是证明我很自私,讨厌那种感觉,
Don't say that you're very busy, this will show that I am very selfish and I hate that feeling, 
看到靓女的时候瞄几眼就好了,不要流口水~
When you see any pretty girls you can check her out, but do not drool~
久别重逢的时候,记得给我一个拥抱,在我耳边说"我好想你......
When we meet after not seeing each other for a long time, remember to give me a hug and whisper in my ears 'i miss you so much...'
我知道,我很任性,但既然你选择了和我在一起,你就应该学会包容我,能接受并指出我的不好,
I know, I am being very childish, but since you've chosen to be with me, you should learn to accommodate me, and willing to accept me while pointing out where I did wrong,
我并不是一个自我为中心的人!
I am not a person who thinks of only me, me and me!
如果你觉得我哪方面不好可以说出来,但不可以忽略我;
If you feel there's anywhere I'm doing no good, you can say to me, but you cannot ignore me;
我可以忍受你直接说不爱我,但是我讨厌你对我忽冷忽热;
I can endure you telling me directly you don't love me, but I hate it when you treat me hot and cold 
我是人,有感觉,也有脾气,不要说我不喜欢听的话,要是我沉默了,那代表我不想再谈论那个话题,那么请你停止说.
I am a mere human being, I have feelings and I also have a temper. Do not say things that I don't like to hear and if I feel depress, that means I don't feel like discussing that matter anymore and please do stop talking (I think this works both ways not just me la and this does sound a tad childish) 
我知道我脾气真的不好,但是要是你受不了,你可以同我说;
I know I have a bad temper, but if you really can't endure it anymore, you can say it out to me;
如果我选择了你,证明我是真的爱你,所以如果我有不好的地方,你也要说出来.

If I have chosen to be with you, this proves how much I truly love you, so if I have any wrongs, you can also say it out.
两个人在一起,就要相互信任,你可以有自己的私人空间,但是不可以欺骗我~
Being together means believing in one another, you can have your own privacy but you cannot bluff me ohr~

Reading through this really made me think, relationship really is hard work. There's the give and take. I remember watching a TV show last time saying how in a relationship, there's always a giver and a taker. or a relationship to work, both parties have to split that responsibility equally so that in the end, both feel treasured and loved. If a person continuously gives and the other continuously take, there'll come a time when the giver feels exhausted and finally gives up on that relationship. Now how sad will that be? I'm no expert in love, I have my flaws and at times I do feel I am a tad selfish. At times like that I would constantly remind myself, I can't make the world revolve around me, try standing in other people's shoes for an instance. I am getting so lovey-dovey come this Valentine's Day!


So I shall leave you guys with this thought, till the next post!
-KaRLeeN-

Friday, January 20, 2012

Back Home

Nothing gets me more excited than the thought of coming back home, although it's a mere 5 days. It's Chinese New Year babey and like everyone's coming back! I can't wait!

All in the flight was awesome, minor turbulence but nothing too bad to activate my air sickness. I came out of the aircraft dizzy-free! Yay to me! The crowd going back home this year was crazy! Maybe it was because my flight was evening flight. Usually I'll opt for the early morning flight as it's less jam and I'll get back home early and start the celebration. However due to the circumstances of my time table, I had to come back home late in the evening, and go back on the third day of CNY (that also with skipping 1 day of class as CNY holidays are only 2 days, how unfair right?).

The jam towards the airport. First time experience

The whole flight was full. The departure hall was full. However with the new online check-in system, it had definitely eased the traffic over at the baggage drop counter. I made a horrific mistake of leaving my sis' Starbucks dragon back in campus (smacks head). How could I have forgotten? I couldn't help but blame myself when I found out that I forgotten about it at the airport and there was no way for me to head back and get the dragon. so this was blunder number 1. Blunder no 2 (this wasn't my fault) occurred when I checked in my luggage. Somehow, some way, when I saw my luggage going into the tracks and all, I had the odd feeling that it will never be the same again. I somehow new something was gonna happen to it, yet somehow I chose to ignore it. The results?

Tadaaa~

My perfectly fine bag (which was a gift from my former school), seem to have been 'amputated'. The horor when I saw the bag! I was even planning to bring it on board when I go to Aussie in May. Too bad the bag could not survive the hardship. =( It will be well missed for sure since it had accompanied me for almost 4 years now. Travelling all over Sabah and to-and-fro from KUL-BKI. I will definitely miss you, my bag. Getting so emotional pula. Any ways of getting a compensation, please leave a comment. However, I doubt I can get one as I did not even purchase the insurance. Aiks!

So now I should head off to bed. It's almost 2am now and I have been awake since 5.30am this morning as there was an early morning ward round at 7.30am. Had to cover bed since this morning my group was responsible. It's gonna be a long but joyful day tomorrow and I plan to enjoy every minute of it! I can't wait to start my day tomorrow, erm I mean today. Till the next post! I'm home babeh!

-KaRLeeN-

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Hardships of Being a Woman

You know all the Hu-ha about what men and women are equal that sorta thing? No no, this is not a post to glorify women. Don't get me wrong. But just some recent health issues that I would like to share with you guys. No no, nothing big and serious, just basic what every girl have to go through monthly, MENSES!

You see, I've never had problems with my 'aunty visits' a.k.a menses prior to university life, or more like till last year. I was perfectly fine, with occasional painful cramps here and there, nothing too serious that will affect my daily activities. However, recently, the condition has take a turn for the worst. Why I would describe it that way you may ask? From no pain till now being Mefenamic Acid dependent and at times even medications do no good, how can I say I am alrite, right?

You would think being a medical student I will be able to solve all of these. Come to think of it, a lot of medical students themselves suffer from this problem. Some have even worst condition (no names will be mentioned in this entry). A friend of mine, even jokingly suggested, go for a TAHBSO, problem solved! (TAHBSO = total abdominal hysterectomy and bilateral salphingo-oophorectomy). I was like say WHAT??! Although I am not keen with the idea of pregnancy, and all the trauma of labor, I will still say I want to have a child of my own some day (or at least have the option of wanting a child). I am thinking way too far now.

These few months, anticipating the date when my menses will come is really terrifying. It's like your waiting for the day where you'll be in pain, totally tired and just wanting to rest. It gets even worst when I start vomiting or having abnormal bowel movements! Too much information. But this is really what I have been going through these past few months. I even had to cancel dates (sorry sayang) due to the unforeseen circumstances. *sigh*

So, as I continue on my monthly battle with my 'aunty', I just hope that the condition gets better. Any suggestion from anyone is much appreciated. I've tried warm compressions, hot tea, getting active in sports etc. Now fingers crossed and hope for the better. 

On a different matter, I am heading home tomorrow for Chinese New Year! OMG this year will be like, MY YEAR, the year of the dragon. I'll be like 24! So cheers to the coming new year and I'm coming home! Coming home. Tell the world I'm coming home! Till the next post!

-KaRLeeN-

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Talking Too Much For My Own Good

Was just thinking through of what happened today. And suddenly something struck me. I really do talk A LOT. Like A LOT a lot. Well lemme tell you the event that led me to feeling this way.

Well this morning I had an early AMSA (a student's association meeting). Imagine having to wake up at 8am on a Saturday (horror!). But I did. So the cranky me was walking down the stairs when something from the balcony caught my eyes. Somebody actually shifted some of my clothing (which included all undergarments) to the side to make place for their bed sheet! There was freaking so many other places to sun your bed sheet, now u came and practically just pushed all my clothing to aside, making all of the clothing crumpled up and who likes people touching their undergarments + towels right? I mean I didn't like freaking hog the line for 1 whole week! I just washed my clothes like yesterday noon and it was not dry yet in the evening! Now I feel like a drama queen.

The 'muka insaf' Drama Queen

I'm getting to my part of the story now. So the partially awaken me was so frustrated about this. I mean I had to wake up at 8! So this totally spoilt my mood in the morning. But this is not the point. The point was that I actually went on and on complaining about it to well, the love. I feel so bad now thinking back. I mean who likes a person who complains and complains and complains bright and early in the morning I might add that. That did not end, in the meeting, there was some issues discussed that affected the love. However, being the defensive me, I was like who was you to put the blame on him! @#$%^&@#$%& You get the idea right? I was being the controlling bitch. I feel so bad now.

At times I always wonder, with my constant complaining, I'm sure to have triggered a nerve or two. I think I even qualify as the 'gossip queen'. But I don't like to be labeled as that. No! No! Cannot! So it's not too late to make a new year's resolution. So resolution #1 this year, to stop being too much of a blabber mouth and just appreciate everything around me before I scare everyone off. *fingers crossed* Till the next post then. (Counting down 6 days till my arrival in LCCT!)

-KaRLeeN-

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

Quick Update

I'm like having the time of my life now. Holidays are just a blessing. Yesterday was all out fun with friends, just hanging around and having a great time. It has always been us 6 for the past few months going out. It just seem right.

I actually updated today to share a youtube video I posted on us doing our version of 'Twist'. We were actually at Perdana Park in Kota Kinabalu which is situated at the junction out from Kota Kinabalu Terminal 2 Airport. Entrance fees is a mere RM 0.50 for the first four hours (the freaking cashier charged us RM1 yesterday! We zoomed off too quickly). The park is like beautiful with loads of fun for the children with the many playgrounds there. For the adults of course there's like jogging tracks for those who wants to lose that few extra pounds! As for people like me, this will be the highlight (jogging there is a tad too far from campus)


Tada! KK's very own musical fountain show!

It's really quite an experience. A great place to spend time with the family and friends too. Yesterday was my 3rd trip there, having to have gone with my siblings as well as my parents. I even got a taste of the playgrounds there (Shhh! signs everywhere stating no adults allowed). It was so much fun. Below is the video that i mentioned earlier that I wanted to share with you guys. Enjoy. 


Music was provided by the park and we just did a flash mob. Till the next post!

-KaRLeeN-

Sunday, January 8, 2012

When Small Gestures Matters Most

2012 baby! Been a very busy beginning of 2012, with exams during the first week of 2012 itself (thank you so much to my school for making my life even more miserable). Didn't even get a chance to countdown, just spending a quiet night having dinner with the loved one. After dinner it was back to the books. But hey, hard work paid off, I'm finally having a well-deserved 1 week break before my next posting followed by CNY when I can 'tong tong chiang' back home! (It has been 6 months since I last went back already?) In my mind, I'm actually having a long 3 weeks break up until CNY is over. Lol.

The small steamboat I had on New Year's Eve. Tom Yum soup base.

Wanted to write a post to commemorate year 2011 as yet another awesome and forgettable year. I learnt so much, grown (hopefully) so much and just loved so much. I wouldn't say it was all smooth sailing from the start till the end, I remember being high on top and just sulking right at the bottom. Nonetheless, it was a great year for me, with loads of memories to be cherished and to be held with me for the rest of my life. To all those I have hurt intentionally or unintentionally, I've just got to say I'm sorry. The small girl is still finding her way in this world, blur as ever (now I know why my family kept saying I MCC). However, I have this other matter on my mind now that I just wanted to discuss it here.

You know at times, how the small little gestures you make have a big impact on the people around you? Or make it this way, how other people's gestures (no matter how big or small it is), can pull you down or lift up your day? Exhibit A, you're carrying like the heaviest bag of stuff imaginable and one good Samaritan (be it your friend, your acquaintance  or a perfect stranger) comes and offer his help, how grateful you'll be for him right? It is just one small act of kindness, and there you are, looking at him like he's made of all things nice in this world.

At times we kinda forget how our small acts can have such an influence on people around us. I remember me washing up my roommates bed sheet while awaiting her arrival back from Kudat, she was so grateful for it. The same goes for me, she was so kind to wash up my bed sheet for me while waiting for me to come home. Forget about washing, the thought that she kept the room spic and span was enough to make me happy. I was grateful to have such an understanding roommate and I wouldn't trade it for anything else.

My caring roomie, Michelle. I miss hanging out with her!

Now the story of course does not end with just friendship. Now how about relationships? We've all read love stories or at the very least watched a chic flick. So where does the gentleman line ends? I for one have not really experienced being pampered out on an all-day-out dating filled with romance etc etc. Not complaining though. I'm more curious about the daily day-to-day life events. You've read on Facebook at the about how when the guy likes to hug his girlfriend, he's being called a perve and how when he doesn't, the girl says he does not love her. So where do you draw the line?

I think this situation works on footing the bill too. I'm not expecting to be spent on, as in all of my expenses to be footed out by him. According to Mad whom we had an awesome girl talk along with her boyfriend to exchange ideas, she said guys looses 2 things in a relationship, no 1 freedom (I think this was it), and no 2 cash. I for one disagree with forcing the other half to foot everything, but once in awhile, having to have him treat you an ice-cream or even to a movie with popcorn included would be a nice gesture. Is that too much to ask?

Lastly, this situation applies to family as well. Well for mine at the least. You'd love to feel appreciated for helping around the house. However, at times, what you're doing seem to be like a responsibility instead of an act of kindness. I remembered started to help out at home right after my sister left for university. Initially I was just helping out with just handwashing all the laundry. Soon enough, I was deemed to be responsible for all dirty laundry, the household cleanliness, the plate washing as well as the ironing. I would even get scolding for not finishing them on schedule. It went on to me painting the whole front gate myself, under the scorching hot sun! It was a responsibility. I remembered thinking to myself, it's not that I want you to pay me or nothing, a word of 'thank you' would have been much appreciated.

I sound like I'm complaining now. It's just that given the circumstances, I'm caught at a crossroads. Where do you exactly cross the line for being treated well without being thought of taking advantage of the other party? For me, I would treat others like how I would like to be treated. However humans are just too different from one another. So how now? I'm still confused after this post. Shall sleep on it then. Till the next post!

-KaRLeeN-